Andrea Rants: Insights, Thoughts, and Opinions

MY thoughts, insights and opinions on things in MY life. I'm not asking for your judgment. Enjoy...or not.

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Location: Chicago, Illinois, United States

Corporate America 12 year veteran. I've held positions ranging from Customer Service to Sr. Manager to Assistant Vice President of Marketing. Novelist. I've always written. My first book was penned (or rather, penciled) at the tender age of six, and every moment since, I have been writing this short story or that novel. My first novel is a work of fiction: Her Essence, a Mystery/Thriller. I am in the process of writing my first non-fiction book, which incorporates my life coaching methodologies and philosphies as well as other thrillers: Taming Roland, About Bryant, and the sequel to Her Essence.

Tuesday, February 28, 2006

Post Yoga

As it's the end of February, (thankfully as I so look foward to warmer temperatures and shedding the layers of clothes I'm forced to wear when not wearing a coat during the winter...see February 1st post: Beware of Setting Your Intention), naturally, I thought about the end of things. The end of winter, the end of February, and oddly, the end of yoga practice.

I'm always at a loss post yoga. If I stay and engage in cardio, is it okay to read the People magazine beckoning me from the magazine rack? Should I choose the Vogue? Is that any better? Or should I just go with the yoga journal...despite the fact that People is featuring Angelina and Brad? What's a girl to do when she needs something to get through 40 minutes on the treadmill?

If the quandary leaves me flustered and I exit the healthclub altogether, can I listen to the R's (Rap, R&B, or Rock) or should I flip on the iPod and listen to the new age music I've downloaded? Is it somehow disruptive to one's psyche to listen to anything 'unpristine'? Will these 'bad' options affect my practice??? Will I 'lose' that state of openness and all that I worked for?

Slightly at a loss...any suggestions/thoughts/insight will be helpful. Thanks in advance!

Best,
Andrea

Monday, February 27, 2006



Hit Counters

Dharma, Karma, and Lies, Oh My!

Just this past weekend, Blythe, who has fully adjusted to her new schedule with Mommy commuting to the city four days a week, and attending an 8:30 yoga class on my one day off (don’t worry, I practice solo and on the weekends to make up for lost practice), awoke promptly at 6:30 Saturday morning.

She bounded into my room full of energy (that only people her age have) and enthusiasm as she held her ‘blue princess dress’ out for me to examine and revere. “Mommy, I can wear my princess dress today. It’s clean!”

Clearly, I wasn’t as enthused about the blue dress as she was…and it was 6:30 on Saturday morning, one of my two days to sleep in. “Blythe, honey, that’s great,” was all I could manage as I tried to open my eyes.

“Isn’t it great, what could be better? I can wear my butterfly tights because it matches, right???”

I fought very hard to match her vigor and sat up, “Yes! I mean no, nothing could be better, let’s get dressed!”

It must be nice to awake, knowing what you want. Knowing what you want out of the day, to know what you’re driven to do that day. For children, it’s so simple: to mimic a princess, to be the quarterback (sorry guys, I don’t have a son or a brother…no clue what you want as kids). That’s kinda’ like dharma. To interpret it loosely: dharma can be described as your ‘life purpose.’

Apparently, we all have one and we will flounder around the Earth until we connect with ourselves long enough to determine what our special purpose is.

Karma can be described as “fate” or “fatalism.” In other words, there’s no escaping it: Murphy’s Law, Que sera’, sera’, and all the sort.

So, if we understand karma correctly, can we assume that one can not achieve one’s dharma due to bad karma? A lie I say! I completely believe that dharma and karma are connected, as karma has been linked to past lives and the sort, but I refuse to blog about that…much too in depth and I am no expert on the subject. HOWEVER, if there were ‘goings on’ in your last life that were left ‘unfinished’ let’s say, then perhaps, you have an opportunity to work it out in this present life.

I promise that’s as ‘new age’ as I intend to get.

These are just my thoughts and insights…do with them what you will. And by the way, I did not have an opportunity to view the entire movie (Constant Gardner) this weekend, choosing sleep over enlightenment (not sure yet if enlightenment is meant to be had…just an hour into the movie but I promise Wednesday is my movie day), and perhaps Blythe is intended to marry VERY well and become the princess of some wonderful country/continent/land/world…what could be better? I've decided not to burn the blue dress.

Thoughts on the subject?

Saturday, February 25, 2006

A State of Openness



Not sure what picture I uploaded, so bear with me. I'm just excited that the system is working properly.

So, a state of openness. I tried to create this today in my yoga practice, using a bolster to open my heart chakra. Have you tried yoga yet? You must!

Anyhow, as I lie there opening all sorts of things, my mind drifted nicely and I knew that I was going to accomplish something wonderful today. And to that (today was really a Roland day): I'm at 17, 100 words/ 62 pages on Taming Roland. I had just a wonderful breakthrough with the protagonist, Marla. You'll hear more about my friend Marla at a later date. I mapped out other story lines within this novel that I hadn't considered, so I'm very excited to put pen to paper on this.

I wrote my cover letters for my latest two agents who have requested Her Essence. Will mail Monday as printer is on the fritz (not a sign, just bad luck).

Identified new opportunities for platform and a wonderful conference in June for Thriller- writers. It's in Phoenix somewhere, it escapes me.

Off to watch 'The Constant Gardner' and looking forward to it.

To all, have a wonderful evening (morning or afternoon, depending on when you're reading this or where).
Andrea

Friday, February 24, 2006

***Book Excerpt 2****

Matt was greeted by several hugs and well wishes from the women preparing for practice; he spent time with each of them, careful not to offend anyone. Eva saved a spot for him with a mat strategically placed right in front of her so he couldn’t watch her struggle, if indeed she was going to struggle, which she doubted. When Matt spotted her, he came right over and pulled out his own mat, which he set up right behind Eva.

“What are you doing? I set one up for you here,” Eva started, pointing at the blue mat in front of her.

“How considerate of you; I thought it was taken. I travel with my own mat.” He held up his green mat for her inspection. “Never know when you might need to whip it out and take a few poses I’ll set up here. Thanks.” Matt replied.

“Jerk,” Eva responded under her breath as she stretched her arms above her head.

“What was that?”

“Work…ready to work. This is going to be a piece of cake.”
Jenny disappeared in the back and returned with what looked like smoking hay to Eva and began waving the smoke around the room. She dimmed the lights and asked the class to begin in savasana, or corpse pose, as she explained it for those who didn’t speak Sanskrit. Surely not everyone practicing yoga spoke Sanskrit, and the dumbed down English version wasn’t for her benefit she wondered. Eva looked over at Matt and mouthed the words “corpse pose?” and rolled her eyes. She faked coughing and shrugged her shoulders at him.

“Sage,” he whispered to her, “it cleanses the room.”

Eva slapped her hand over her forehead and mouthed, “of course.”

After centering themselves, they began their ‘sun salutations’ that put them in several poses in rapid succession to warm up. Eva’s feet began to slide as she tried to maintain her perfectly formed upside down ‘V’ or downward dog. The blood rushed to her head—she wasn’t used to being upside down this way. Hanging from a rope off a cliff yes, inclined like this, no. Her hands were seemingly glued to the odd sticky mat. “How is this considered exercise?” she whispered to Matt.

Jenny hissed in response, “Socks off.”

Eva removed them and instantly stopped sliding on the mat. With that, she was able to dig in and really get into the poses. She began to work up a sweat and feel a burn in her quads. She stuck with it until Jenny instructed them to hold the poses for what seemed like forever. They held plank position, warriors one, two and three, and pigeon for several breaths. Jenny then ended the class in savasana, and this time Eva didn’t roll her eyes. She was glad for the break. Breathing heavily, she glanced over at Matt who seemed at peace lying on his green mat; he hadn’t broken a sweat.

Eva drifted off during savasana as she cleared her mind and breathed deeply. She listened to Jenny’s soft melodious voice wafting in and out of her consciousness, coaxing her, willing her to relax. She woke with a start when the class responded “Namaste” in unison. Eva flushed and sat up, joining the rest of the class. In her haste, the blood rushed from her head, making her feel a bit lightheaded. She hadn’t remembered what she thought about in the moments during ‘corpse pose,’ but she had the impression it was important; she wanted it to be.

“Sleep well Ms. Weir?” Matt teased from behind her.

Eva stood slowly and yawned, “Why yes. I did. Best sleep I’ve had in a year.” She was surprised by the amount of energy she now felt.

“Actually, being able to relax that much shows that you’re capable of meditating. Look, here’s Jenny, let’s talk to her about it. Jenny,” he called, ignoring Eva protests.

“How did you enjoy the class Eva?” Jenny asked as she sauntered over.

“It was good. Different. I feel completely stretched out.”

“Great. Make sure you drink plenty of water to flush out all that negativity surrounding you.”

Eva ignored the barb, if it was one. Unsure how the statement was intended, she replied, “okay,” shifting her weight from one foot to the other. She turned to leave when Matt grabbed her arm, keeping her firmly in place.

“Eva’s interested in meditation. I told her you’d be able to help her with that. She needs to create a state of openness to clear her mind and focus. She consults with me on some of my cases.” He motioned with his head for Eva to move in closer. Goal accomplished, he released her and busied himself with rolling up his and Eva’s mats and putting away the equipment. Her glare landed on the back of his head.

“You’re with the police department too? I’m surprised you haven’t used yoga or meditation before now. That explains the negativity. It’s what brought Matt to the studio,” Jenny replied, her gaze shifted toward the spot Matt had just vacated. Jenny refocused on Eva, looking up at her with a far away look in her eyes that made Eva cringe.

“I used to work on the force, forever ago it seems,” she shook her head. “Anyway, I run long distance. It clears my mind. I had a back injury and was strongly advised to find another form of exercise.”

“Well see, many people run to ‘clear their heads,’ she mimicked the quotation marks with her fingers poised at eye level, “but it’s really metaphorical; like running away from your memories, your past, something in your present life, things that have been unpleasant or difficult.

“Anyway, with yoga there’s no escaping. You actually become more mindful of yourself, your surroundings, the Earth. This will be good for you, I think. I noticed that you were resting deeply by the end of the class. What did you think about?”

Again, Eva flushed, “Nothing really. I think the music has an odd effect on me, that or the sage…I’m not sure.”

“I have something I think can help. Can you wait while I get you a CD?”

“Sure. I’ve got nothing but time.”

“And thus it begins,” Jenny said when she returned.
Eva received it and hastily stuffed it in her gym bag, “Thanks. I’ll be around.”

“I know. I look forward to seeing you around Eva,” Jenny responded.

Thursday, February 23, 2006

More News

I've heard back from Agent V (would like to see three chapters) and Agent W (passing on the project, she doesn't believe she's the best agent for HER ESSENCE).

Positive momentum I'd say...perhaps your positivity from yesterday is making it's way eastward to the NY agents. My most sincere thanks. Perhaps another book excerpt tomorrow???

That said, I have much work to do with coordinating mailings and the sort. Keep up the good work and keep those fingers toes and eyes crossed (when not driving or otherwise needing all your faculties) until you hear back that I indeed have an agent to represent me.

Best,
Andrea

Wednesday, February 22, 2006

This Just In!

I just retrieved the mail today. It's after 4:00 central standard time. Long ago (three weeks) I decided to cease and desist with bringing the mail in before 4:00, as it has become an obsession, much like the agent email. How long, I ask you will this torture go on and when will my life return to normal?!?!???

Anyhow, my new mail phobia has been momentarily delayed as Agent X responded. So, yes, I received mail, addressed to me in my own handwriting...the tell-tell that signals a plethora of emotions: fear, elation, trepidation, impatience, etc. also known as the SASE or Self Addressed Stamped Enevlope.

But I have learned my lesson from Agent Z and I PROMISE THAT I WILL NOT get my hopes up. I will merely comply with Agent X's request for information (my entire manuscript...not just a partial). Please read this as just further explanation and not the other, dreaded e: enthusiasm.

Anyhow, regardless, this is a mere update on my status:

Her Essence: Well, you just read it! Please read that exclamation as such and not as exuberant enthusiasm, which I do not have. The three of you...get to work with your positive thoughts right now!!!

Taming Roland: Did a lot of editing (I know for some writers, it is unheard of to edit an unfinished novel, but it works for me). PP. 58, 15, 891 words

About Bryant: PP 44, 11, 253 words.

Platform: Wrote an article that I plan to query.

And that's it. Wish me well in this awesome journey. Be a part of it, and thus join in. You are reading this for a reason!

Best,
Andrea

Tuesday, February 21, 2006

Agent Update...And Other Things

I have mailed my last query today to targeted agents U through Y.

I have come up with a new strategy for improving my platform, which for those of you not in the know (myself, a member of 'not in the know' a year and a half ago). Your platform is similar to your resume or professional credibility in literary terms. Right now, my platform is weak because I've wasted several years in corporate America. Okay, not wasted because I learned a lot about human nature, myself and life in general and I met many interesting people I'll never forget who have made great fodder for plots and character development!;-)

Kidding! My material is strictly fictional so take your finger off your speed dial to your lawyer, put the telephone down, and continue reading for gosh sake! Besides, the only people who need worry are those closest to me, like my family.

Anyhow, I'll probably write less in the blog as a result of other things I need to do, as much as I enjoy writing for the three of you. Don't forget me and check back often!!! I plan to finish February out strong, as it is Black History Month!!!

I will still add excerpts from HER ESSENCE, so stay tuned.

Best,
Andrea

Monday, February 20, 2006

Alas, no picture

***** Problems with the system, not able to post pictures, therefore delays... *****

For today, I have had great progress to report in the last two days. For both Taming Roland and About Bryant. I haven't added them to the computer (there's always tomorrow right ??? but the pressure is on and so I must keep going).

Taming Roland: a dream inspired sceene which I wrote out first thing in the morning.

About Bryant: an additional chapter that I'm pleased with in addition to edits.

Her Essence: we'll talk later.

Best and more good news later,

Andrea

Saturday, February 18, 2006

A New Day

So here we are. A new focus, a new day, a new adventure.

In today's yoga practice, I tried to recreate what was last week. During shavasana, I used a bolster to create space in my chest. I wanted to see if I'd experience the popping again. No, I didn't. Moral: don't look back, only forward, which is the focus of this article.

I figure, if the pressure is on, i.e., I'm saying to the world (or to the three committed friends I have who read my blog)that I will realize my goal to publish Her Essence (and other novels to follow), then, I will push myself to not give up. I mean, what will the three of you think of me if I just quit, right?

Here is my status today:

Her Essence

Waiting to hear back from Agents Y, X, W, and V via email. Will follow-up with snail mail to agent Y. Retrieved address from website, will mail today, if not Monday. Waiting to hear back from Agents U and T, these were mailed last week.

Taming Roland

Currently on page 58, 15,628 words. I got a lot of good things down on paper, and then on the computer this past week. Very emotional book for me and thus harder to write...more on that later.

About Bryant

Currently on page 42, 10,572 words. I took the manuscript (if it can be called that at this early stage...maybe mani???) to a quaint little coffee shop this morning where I broke through my plateau and was able to make the story flow a bit better. Very happy with the progress on this one, not so happy with the coffee at the little shop, but it was a rather nice setting and I got a lot of work done, so no real complaint.

There you have it. Feel free to respond with positive messages and encouragement.

Andrea

Friday, February 17, 2006

A Day of Silence

I needed a day of silence yesterday after receiving the news that the agent I referenced in a previous blog passed on HER ESSENCE. So please join me in a moment of silence...........................................................................

Thank you. And now, I'll move on. Clearly, I was quasi-devastated by the news, but it will be a positive experience. That, I can control. I have chosen to take the positive feedback I received from Agent Z to move forward and better hone in on Agent A who will have great enthusiasm for the project and will work as hard as I will to get Her Essence out to the public. (Perhaps not all of you were thinking positively for me an thus blocking Agent Z from snatching me up as her client...and yes, it's easier to blame you than to admit the truth, that it was a stretch for Agent Z as Mystery/Thrillers are not their forte);-)

SO! In that vain, I have decided to chronicle my adventures her on Yoga Rant. I will also use my yoga practice to get through this process (and chronicle that as well).

Ok. That's all for today...Think positive things for Her Essence. It is an important project that deserves an audience. And it will, one way or another.

Best!
Andrea

Wednesday, February 15, 2006

That Odd Feeling (In Yoga)

As I discussed on Sunday, I felt very odd things happening during the final resting pose in yoga. Sundays, the class ends a bit late as there are no other classes following it and it runs from 9:30-10:45 or so. At about 10:25, we prepared for Baddha-kona-asana or the restrained or bound angle pose (I wish I could tell you about this pose…we use a strap to bind our legs and feet, hence ‘restrained’). We coupled this with shavasana, as we used a bolster to lie back on—which is nice because the restrained angle pose really opens up the knees, lower back and to some extent the second chakra (houses creativity), and lying back on the bolster really opens up the fourth or heart chakra.

We were given the option of untangling ourselves from bound angle and relax in a more common shavasana where we just lie flat (corpse pose). I opted to stay in bound angle as I had done so just one other time, and found the experience rather refreshing and it resulted in my feeling as if I’d grown an inch (no doubt due to the posture benefits of the pose when coupled with shavasana) and I laid like that for ten minutes or so.

Now for the odd feeling; I felt a popping (that’s the best way to describe it) in the center of my chest. It was inaudible (hopefully), but there was definitely movement or something close. AND it didn’t alarm me in the least! Lastly, I felt as if someone was pulling on my right ear. I’ve never felt that before, and I’m sure I’m not explaining it well as I have absolutely nothing to compare it to.

No. I have no idea what any of it means, or even if it means. But it was an odd experience when you couple it with everything else that happened that morning.

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

*** BOOK EXCERPT ***

Ok! So, I've spoken quite a bit about HER ESSENCE, perhaps teased you with tidbits about the plot. Well, today, I'm sharing a bit of the novel. Her Essence is a thriller, billed by those who have read it: an "intelligent thriller." following is from the first chapter, entitled: Afriad. In it, Eva (one of the protagonists) agrees to try yoga on a dare.

Eva was glad she made it to the class early. It gave her time to adjust to the new surroundings. She was surprised to find a big room with shiny hard wood floors, “a waste of space,” she thought as she surveyed the area. It took her mere seconds to identify the instructor, Jenny; she remembered Matt said that she reminded him of her. Jenny was a rather angry looking woman who kept to herself; small in stature, big in attitude. A severe hair cut highlighted her delicate features: high, prominent cheek bones, and a small angular nose. Eva introduced herself and engaged Jenny in conversation. After a brief period of discomfort where they sized each other up, Jenny reluctantly showed her several basic moves she would need for the class: mountain pose, plank position, downward dog, and the warrior poses.

“Is that it?” Eva asked.

“It’s a start,” she eyed Eva appraisingly; “I’ll talk you through the other poses during the class. Don’t worry; it’ll get tougher as the class goes on. Trust me.”

Eva had her doubts as she eyed the blankets, rainbow colored mats and blocks located in the corner of the room, she thought it looked more like romper room than an exercise studio. She really wanted to withhold judgment until after the session, but it was going to be hard. She settled on the purple mat and laid it across the floor.

“So what brings you to yoga?” Jenny asked as Eva unrolled her mat.

It was an odd question she thought, and asked, “What do you mean?”

“Yoga. People are drawn to it for different reasons. Some seek a more gentle form of exercise. Some are curious, looking for a miracle. Some simply want peace,” Jenny said.

“I guess all of it…none of it. I came on a dare.” With that, Jenny snorted and left her to set up for her practice. Eva secretly hoped Matt was right, that yoga could help her concentrate; recreate that special state of mind. Soon the class began to fill with a few men but mostly women of varying sizes, ages and shapes. The number of men in the class surprised Eva. She was expecting women who didn’t want to work too hard at their chosen form of exercise and trendy men—metrosexual was the new term she recalled, although the term was probably old now. Things had a way of traveling to Charlotte well after the novelty had worn off. The men in the class weren’t what she would consider metrosexual; they seemed normal, tough enough and hardly fashionable in t-shirts and long shorts. Eva wondered where Matt fell on that metro line, given his affinity for yoga. Lost in thought or perhaps in a trance from the kooky transcendental music, she hadn’t noticed Matt until the commotion of his arrival broke her concentration.

Monday, February 13, 2006

Can't Get That Song Outta' My Head

So! I’ve been thinking about the song from yesterday’s blog. I LOVE music. I dream about music, I am the constant channel changer (much to the chagrin of anyone who drives with me), I have always loved all music, my musical taste not at all hampered by stereotypes, friends, family or anything else of the sort (much like my penchant for non-matching clothes). I am not, however, musical...but that's another story.

Did you recall the song from Outfield? If not, think back to the last time you heard a song you LOVED...and hadn't heard it for more than a year...right. There's the state I want you in...

Anyhow, after hearing the Outfield song (and engaging in that euphoria that is the oldie but goodie), I thought, “Gotta get that on the iPod," and I added it to the list I keep. Later, I thought, no. Definitely don’t want that one on the iPod and I’ll tell you why. There is something special about hearing an old favorite song on the radio. You relive that time when the song was popular or just ‘your song.’ It makes that day just that much more special when you reconnect with an 'old friend'. When the song’s on the iPod, you can call it up at anytime, there’s no fanfare, no surprise, no…nothing, just the song.

I have found that there’s nothing better than hearing an old favorite when you least expect it. It's like a two-fer: you have your fond memories from way back when, and you have your new memory. I'll always link that song to the positive response (and it was positive!!!!) I received regarding HER ESSENCE. And what does that have to do with yoga? Absolutely nothing, HUH! (did you get that???)

To my friends on the Eastcoast: Sorry to hear about the snow...perhaps you can take extra time to catch up on my blog;-)

By the way, I will get back to the yoga and art article...soon.

Sunday, February 12, 2006

Another Note on Chance Encounters Signs, Intuition and the Sort

Today has been an interesting day! First thing this morning, I decided that I wanted to devote as much of the day to writing as possible…one of the latest novels (Taming Roland and About Bryant…more on those later), polish up some of my queries, or Yoga Rant articles. As soon as I turned the computer on, I heard Blythe’s tell-tell, “thump, pit, pat, pit, pat” as she made her way out of bed and down the hall. There would be no writing this morning.

I did a quick review of the news paper, pulling out the ‘Books’ section first, naturally, and Arts next, again, no big surprise there. The surprise came in the Arts lead articles: A discussion about Crash, “From crazy idea to the Oscars: The journey of Crash” (2005 movie and if you haven’t seen it…do!). The second article: “Murder, they wrote: Police TV shows are all the rage and here’s why.”

An interesting pairing I thought as I prepared to attend a yoga class. There was something for me there, as evidence of the familiar ‘ding’ I hear/feel sometimes when something relevant is about to happen, but I wanted to pace myself and engage in a bit of yoga before I started writing.

I drove to the club by rote memory as my mind was on the articles and what I was meant to read in it (both topics are very relevant to Her Essence), I absently turned the station and a song came on that solidified it for me, ‘Your Love’ by Outfield. Perhaps you’ve heard it, but you wouldn’t know by the title which I had to look up. (By the way…it took several minutes longer than I care to admit, but I digress). It’s an oldie but goodie: “da da da da da da, da da da da da … I don’t want to lose your love tonight, I just want to use your love, toniiiight” Remember now??? Anyhow, it was one of my favorite songs a million years ago, and I even remembered most of the words (the first stanza has always been da da da to me). Anyhow, I turned the volume up WAY HIGH and I got chills—no it wasn’t the base, but chills just like the ones bad books reference when the protagonist sees the killer for the first time (note to self: remove any and all references to chills).

Back to the articles! The reporter discussed the fact that people didn’t want to make Crash and even after it was completed, that studios didn’t want to pick it up. Yet today, it’s an Oscar contender. The article cites that many people wanted to distance themselves from the movie because of the racial overtones and one reviewer in particular went as far as to say that the depiction of different cultures was stereotypical. I had the opposite reaction, I was struck by the honest reactions the characters felt toward people of a different race—right, wrong, but definitely not indifferent. I felt the movie was anything but stereotypical. The second article discussed why mysteries are such a hit, to quote the first line, “Just look at the shelves of any bookstore in any airport and you see how much people love crime and mysteries, how much they love solving puzzles…”

Enter me: having just perused these articles, the chill-stirring song, on my way home from a wonderful yoga session where I felt very odd things that I will share later, surely something was about.

Now home, I have decided to stop checking my email for responses from agents, and I set up an altogether new e-mail address in an effort to not obsess. As I checked online for the title and group for the song this morning, I couldn’t help but see that I had a new email on the agent email. “Yeah, right,” I thought, but I checked it anyway despite my pledge to not obsess or check that email box today.

It was from one of my top tiered wish list agents who requested a partial (just means she approved the query and requested the first 30 pages of the novel). She says, and I quote, “I read your sample pages a couple of days ago. I want to let it sit for a day or so and then I want to reread them. I LIKE WHAT I SEE but I don’t think the material is for me. I also TOOK THE LIBERTY OF FORWARDING YOUR SAMPLE PAGES ON TO ANOTHER AGENT FRIEND who tends to handle more mysteries and thrillers to see if it might be more up her alley…” Ok, so she didn’t use caps, and she didn’t say, hey, I want to make you a client, but she didn't say please delete my address from your files. She said she liked what she saw and that she sent the pages to another agent!!!!!

Her note came through at 10:33…when I was experiencing odd feelings during my shavasana (resting pose!!!) Is it a sign? A Coincidence? Not sure, stay tuned!

My Favorite Chance Encounter

SATURDAY'S POST...apologies for the delay

Speaking of chance encounters (yesterday’s article), let me tell you about one of my favorite chance encounters: Last Spring I followed my intuition and attended a workshop on “What Editor’s Really Want.” The lecturer (a wonderful Marcela Landres) has a newsletter and sent around a note that she was going to be in Chicago for the day (She typically holds workshops in New York). Everything was perfectly set up for me to attend this conference as I was scheduled to leave work early that day, and more importantly, I knew where the lecture was located and how to get there (all who know me, know that I’m directionally challenged). After the workshop, I introduced my self to Marcela and then proceeded to invite her to dinner.

Marcela graciously turned down my dinner invitation (perhaps guessing correctly that I planned to spend as much time as I could grilling her about this writing business), and invited me to dine with the group that invited her to speak at the conference. I thought, “Not a bad plan B!” So I considered myself invited and as I waited for all the conference attendees to disperse, I had a change of heart. Am I really going to go to dinner with these people who don’t know me? I have to pick up Blythe, can’t be late for that! Is anything going to come of this? Am I really as bold as I portray myself to be? What exactly am I doing here?

I answered no to several of the important questions, and I left. I walked all the way to my car, got on the elevator, punched 7, and when the doors opened, I let them close again. I suddenly felt compelled to be there and follow whatever led me there in the first place. So, I walked back, and met up with Marcela in the restroom. “Are you coming?” she asked, smiling brightly. “Sure. Wouldn’t miss it.”

Long story short, I pitched the novel and made a promise, “I’m going to finish the first novel by July 24th!” I did meet my deadline, and I contacted Marcela to schedule consulting and editorial services—money well spent! Marcela read Her Essence and ‘got it!’ I hadn’t expected anyone unrelated to me to connect with the book, to understand it and react as she had (enthusiastically). When we met to discuss the edits, the first thing she told me (perhaps reading me correctly as I was doubting the whole writing thng) was, "If you question for one moment if you were supposed to write...don't..."

And here we are today...stay tuned!

Friday, February 10, 2006

Taken For Granted

Just as I’m no longer underestimating, I’m no longer taking ‘things’ for granted. Not people I’ve met through normal everyday encounters, people I’ve met quite by random to friends and family I’ve known, what seems, my entire life.

Everyone in your life is there for a reason. Every person an opportunity to learn more about you, or perhaps a chance encounter to deliver a message that allows that person to learn something about themselves. To miss that prospect to grow is a travesty just the same as if you’d lost a treasured item.

I wonder sometimes (especially now that I’ve adopted this idea) if I haven’t taken my ‘chance encounters’ for granted as they are typically in your life for such a short time: the shy girl in class in the eighth grade who glommed on to you when you were nice to her. She thought you were the best thing since peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. The little boy who had a crush on you, but was afraid to tell you himself—although you knew, the girl you were paired with for an assignment in the eleventh grade; you’d never spoken to her before or since, but there was just something odd about the time you spent together. The child who looks up at you and remarks that “you look tired today,” in that honest way that children do. The brief encounter on the road: the incredibly attractive man who drove past you—only to meet up with him again in the express lanes where you felt compelled to glance across the lane and there he sat, looking back at you. I know what you’re thinking, “What’s the lesson there?” If open, always take the express lanes, of course! Regardless, I wonder now, did I learn something?

Whatever your ‘vehicle’ for meeting, there’s a reason you’ve met (says I) and a reason you should at least ponder it.

This blog, being about yoga insights, here’s another rationale for yoga etiquette rule number 6 (see Yoga Etiquette January 30th). Follow the instructor’s lead. Perhaps s/he will lead you to a pose that makes you question why you’re feeling tight in a certain area, or notice that your left side is much stiffer than your right. Or maybe you become meditative as you go through the ‘same old vinyasa’ that you always do—and while in rote practice, you allow your mind to wander and you stumble upon that answer you’ve been contemplating. Or maybe nothing happens and that is what’s called for that day.

I guess that’s why they’re called ‘chance’ encounters, they’re risks (not so unlike the daily lottery—which I haven’t played in years and perhaps should so that I can self-publish and sell you all copies of HER ESSENCE sooner rather than later. Oh, but I digress…) Anyhow, they’re little gambles on life that can bring you the love of your life, a simple answer, a beautiful child (let’s hope bearing children isn’t a random event, but you get my drift hopefully), or perhaps helps you get ‘unstuck’ if only for the briefest moment. What’s life without risk? Safe? Boring? There’s a quote that caught my eye a while back: “Life isn’t measured by the number of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away.” Author unknown.

Think about it.

Tomorrow or Sunday: Yoga Inspires Art

Thursday, February 09, 2006

No Longer Underestimating

Being a new parent and not having taken a class on the subject, sometimes you have to feel your way through it. Many times I catch myself thinking, “Gosh, I’m the parent now,” when Blythe requests something of me or looks up with those beautiful brown eyes and questions why something is.

Everything right now is about teaching and learning for both of us. Her brain is the proverbial sponge that is soaking up so much, and much of what she’s soaking up is what I’m ‘teaching’ her through my actions. The pressure!

When Blythe was just a little thing, two I think, she wanted to play blocks; a gift from her grandparents, wooden blocks with letters on two sides and pictures on all others. For example: the S block contained pictures of the following: S, s, sun, star, sandwich, and snake. Blythe was so taken by the blocks, she wanted me to read them to her and go through all the pictures. Soon, she would pick only the ones she didn’t know so well: Q, X, Y, U. If I picked up our old friend S, she would politely say, “no” and move it to the side (or throw it across the room if I tried too hard) and grab for the V, her little diaper-clad bottom hoisted in the air as she sought out the letters she didn’t know. So, we talked about the volcano, vase, vine and violin.

One day, as I read to her about a cat, she said, “Cat…K.” I looked at her in amazement, this little person, just two as she stumbled onto phonics. I underestimated just how much she was learning, and even how much she wanted to learn.

In yoga, I have found that I’ve underestimated myself numerous times. I remember the first time I saw candle pose and the instructor told she would walk us through it. I thought, “yeah, right!” In candle pose, you start out lying down, you then bend your knees and bring your feet as close to your bottom as possible and hoist yourself up, keeping your shoulders on the floor. (Also important to keep you chin tucked, but I’m not instructing you, just trying to give you a visual). You’ll find yourself in bridge pose. From there, you take a block and place it at your sacrum. Allowing the block to absorb your weight, you balance on it and point your legs skyward (think candle).

Candle looks more intimidating than it really is. So imagine my surprise when I tried it and did it! I surprised myself in much the way Blythe surprises me. Through yoga I have learned to stop underestimating both of us, and to be open to new experiences. I’ve come to expect the little wonders Blythe performs, and I anticipate my growing flexibility and subtle body changes (more muscular) that have come as a result of my practice.

Wednesday, February 08, 2006

There are no Princesses in Yoga (Purposely?)

I spoke with Alison (my favorite yoga instructor) the other day; I wanted to know if there was such a thing as princess pose in yoga. I thought I had heard of such a pose.

“I’ve never heard of princess pose. There’s empress pose…” She then demonstrated it for me.

I wasn’t sure why the question popped in my head, maybe it’s because my daughter is going through a phase right now where she wants and expects everything to be “princess-like.” She wants her dresses to reach a certain length, or to be a certain color “Cinderella’s dress is blue like mine!” she screams excitedly whenever she is allowed to wear her blue dress.

I don’t remember going through a princess phase when I was a child. If anything, I think I was the anti-princess as my parents allowed me to dress myself and my style definitely did not reflect royalty. My sisters still tease me about an outfit I selected all by myself (I can still recall it: green terry cloth shirt, denim skirt, red socks and brown gym shoes). Bless my parents for allowing me to select my own wardrobe…whatever suited my fancy no matter how terribly it matched.

I want to allow Blythe the same freedom of choice, however, when everything is tainted by princesses and not her own individual taste, I get worried. I think I would prefer the green/blue/red/brown combination to the “perfect princess” look she’d rather maintain. So needless to say, this is a struggle for me as I want to allow her freedom of choice, as I had as a child, but I also want to help her develop her own personal style and know 'Blythe'.

So this brings me back to yoga. There are no princess in yoga, only warriors—and three of them. The poses are called: Warrior 1,2, or 3 (the Sanskrit name: Virabhadra I, II or III) The poses are not interpreted as queen, king, prince, or princess and everyone can partake in the warrior poses. They are a staple in hatha yoga practice; I don’t recall a practice when I didn’t hold a warrior pose. While these poses are masculine in nature (in yoga these poses are considered to be yang or muscular poses). Yoga recognizes and honors the female and the male (yin/yang) in each individual.

I’m at a loss now as I re-read this passage, where was I going with this story? Maybe the answer is in that previous sentence. Maybe I need only honor Blythe’s rather yin-bent focus right now and go with it, and see where it leads. But know that I’m keeping a keen eye on the situation as it progresses. Perhaps we’ll delve into more discussion about warriors as we engage in our yoga practice.

Thoughts? Help?

Tuesday, February 07, 2006

What is Yoga: Definition of Yoga

I received a question via e-mail yesterday:

"Andrea, can you tell me more about your practice, the benefits of yoga, and what you've seen personally as a result of your practice?"

Personally, I prefer Hatha Yoga: The path of Physical Yoga or Yoga of Postures is the most popular branch of Yoga. Hatha Yoga considered the body as the vehicle for the soul. It uses Physical Poses or Asana, Breathing Techniques or Pranayama, Meditation in order to bring the body in perfect health and for the more subtle spiritual elements of the mind to emerge freely. The practice of Hatha Yoga will result to the union of the body and the soul, it aims to make the body perfect and fill it with life force.

My preference is based on the fact that I haven't tried the other branches of yoga. Some of my self-discoveries: keener intuition, a more peaceful demeanor, and leaner muscles.

I highly recommend the attached link from ABC of Yoga for a more detailed explanation about the definition of yoga. A quick summary:

Yoga is a complete science of life that originated in India many thousands of years ago. It is the oldest system of personal development in the world encompassing the entire body, mind and spirit. It is the union between a person's own consciousness and the universal consciousness. The Ancient Yogis had a profound understanding of man's essential nature and of what he needs to live in harmony with himself and his environment. They perceived the physical body as a vehicle, with the mind as driver, the soul as man's true identity, and action, emotion and intelligence as the three forces which pull the body-vehicle. In order for these to be integrated, these three forces must be in balance. Taking into account the interrelationship between body and mind, the Yogis formulated a unique method for maintaining this balance - a method that combines all the movements you need for physical health with the Breathing and Meditation techniques that ensure peace of mind.

The classical techniques of Yoga date back more than 5,000 years. In ancient times, the desire for greater personal freedom, Health and long life, and heightened self-understanding gave birth to this system of physical and mental exercise which has since spread throughout the world. The word Yoga means "to join or yoke together," and it brings the body and mind together into one harmonious experience.

Yoga is a method of learning that aims to attain the unity of mind, body, and spirit through these three main Yoga structures: Exercise, Breathing, and Meditation. The exercises of Yoga are designed to put pressure on the Glandular Systems of the body, thereby increasing its efficiency and total health. The body is looked upon as the primary instrument that enables us to work and evolve in the world, a Yoga student; therefore, treats it with great care and respect. The Breathing Techniques are based on the concept that breath is the source of life in the body. Yoga students gently increase their breath control to improve the health and the function of both body and mind. These two systems prepare the body and mind for Meditation, making it easier for students to achieve a quiet mind and be free from everyday stress. Regular daily practice of all three parts of this structure of Yoga produce a clear, bright mind and a strong, capable body.

Best,
Andrea

Monday, February 06, 2006

A New Twist on Mommy and Me Yoga


Have you tried yoga yet? What are you waiting for? If you would prefer to go with someone, call a friend and the two of you should make a day of it. A friend recently told me that her mother invited her to practice with her. I thought it was brilliant of her mom to ask her to join her in practice. So, they made a morning of it. It resulted in her reconnecting with herself and seeing her mother in a new light. She said, and I’ll quote: “…the power of yoga and the beauty of seeing what an incredible woman my mom is, really came to the surface today…” I thought that was touching and indicative of the power of yoga (if I may sound so new-aged!).

Typically, ‘Mommy and Me’ classes are with new moms and newborns and entail doing stretches to increase abdominal and back strength and build stamina. There is usually ‘child play’ to keep the baby entertained. I 'practice' with Blythe (pictured) every now and again as she's a two year veteran at the tender age of four. Yet when we practice together, it’s fun time do silly poses with silly names and she likes to crawl under me as I get in and out of poses. We tend to wind up on the floor rolling around tickling and laughing. In any event, not much yoga is being practiced, but much fun is had.

Listening to the story about my friend who was drawn back to yoga by her mother inspired a thought; I can be that beacon of light for Blythe should she ever stray. Perhaps we’ll share something wonderful as a result as well.

So, all that said, go grab your mother (or father), friend, sibling, lover or child and dip your toe in the wonderful waters of yoga. I'll be interested in hearing about your new and interesting experiences.

Sunday, February 05, 2006

Getting to Know You

One of the many benefits of yoga is the idea of getting reacquainted with you. In yoga, there is the instructor who guides you on your journey of self-discovery, and there’s you, the active participant being directed.

A good instructor will cue you to reflect on the different feelings you may experience: after a particular pose, say pigeon pose on the right side; he or she may ask if you feel a difference between your right and left hip, thus causing you to stop and reflect on your body. After camel pose, a simple question, how does your chest feel? Will draw your attention to the lightness you now feel as a result of the pose.

A good student will take the practice further and into their daily lives. While driving, you may come across a rather aggressive driver ‘riding your bumper.’ Without thinking, you react: your heart rate may increase, your attention is drawn to the rearview mirror and away from the road, your jaw and abdominal muscles may constrict or clench and perhaps you perspire a bit. As all this is happening unconsciously, consciously, you may plan your ‘punishment’ for the belligerent driver. Perhaps you’re going to slow down, or block them should they try to pass you, maybe you prepare a few choice words as they maneuver to pass you…or maybe you do nothing.

Being in the moment, knowing how the experience is making you feel can help you deal with the emotions in a healthier way (and possibly help you avoid an altercation or worse, an accident). Just my insight on how yoga can help in everyday life. How do you feel right now? Are you more curious about yoga? Maybe you’re interested in taking an introductory class, or jumping back on the mat?

Tomorrow: A New Twist on Mommy and Me Yoga

Saturday, February 04, 2006

Finding Inner Peace

Friday, February 03, 2006

Yoga: A Non-Competitive Sport

I know, I know, Yoga is not a sport, but bear with me. What comes to mind when you think about sports? Yes, of course, competition, as it should. I played sports in grade school in Illinois: (St. Edmunds in Oak Park) and in high school (North Shore Country Day School in Winnetka). I grew up competing; one of four girls in my family, competition was imminent.

With my past, I wonder why I was so drawn to yoga as it is not at all competitive, the anti-competition even. I think now, perhaps it is because of my past experiences that I was drawn to yoga. The non-competitive nature of yoga is just one of the reasons I partake in the practice. I have found that in yoga, the only person judging me is me. That is exactly as I would have it.

Sure, there’s the occasional student in the class who tries desperately to compete, holding down dog longer than me, kicking his or her leg higher than mine, pushing deeper in their warrior pose than me. I’ve been that competitive person. Especially in the beginning of my practice and more currently against Rob, who is more limber than any man should be. Who does he think he is anyway??? “I’ll show him…” Inhale, exhale, that was then.

Today, I consider those who compete a challenge to demonstrate to myself just how far I’ve come since my first downward dog—if I notice them at all. I acknowledge that they aren’t ‘there’ yet, but in time, perhaps they’ll get 'there'. In the mean time, I’ll continue to check myself against my intention and focus inward.

Giving Thanks and Oops...

A quick note of thanks to Laure for her computer genius and overall support on this project! On another note, I noticed the the comments section was turned off for non-subscribers (so that's why no one has commented!) It's fixed now, so please feel free to send your comments, feedback, etc. More later. Best, Andrea KEEP READING

Thursday, February 02, 2006

Honoring Your Limitations vs. Pushing Yourself to the Next Level

Now there’s a fine line if I ever saw one. In yoga, what constitutes pushing yourself deeper in a pose versus knowing and honoring your body’s natural limitations? For some of us, we have naturally tight joints and muscles. Take me for instance: Hamstrings hands (or rather legs) down. As I mentioned, I am occasionally hampered by my shoulder (the right one) as well. For me, the key is breathing deeply and pushing through discomfort, but pulling back at any sign of pain.

This is a part of the practice that I bring into my daily life. I think it’s important to know what your limitations are. In my life, it’s interacting with rude and disrespectful people (I just have a block there). When I’m confronted with someone who treats me without respect, I’ve learned to take a deep breath and push past the discomfort. I make a quick assessment of the situation: Is this an opportunity to help someone (myself included) grow, or is it a lost cause and thus time better spent elsewhere? Let’s take the situation yesterday with the tire. I was not confronted with rude behavior, but a challenge. Changing that tire was just beyond my capabilities, and yes, I have changed tires before (you have to in order to pass drivers ed).

Let’s list the variables: Drivers ed was umpteen years ago, I couldn’t locate the wheel locks (and didn’t know I had wheel locks on the tires), it was 38 degrees and falling, I didn’t have a coat, and I know that my patience runs very thin when doing anything mechanical. All that said, changing the tire was beyond my limitations, and the best choice for me was to call a professional, which I did. Instead, I used the time (what little sunlight that was available to me) to write yesterday’s article.

Now, for everyday situations, yoga included, I think it’s important to know what you’re capable of and assess the situation. Only then can you follow your intuition and know when you’re at a point of pain, and pull back when you need to. To not pull back will only result in pain: physical, mental or (yikes!) both.

Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Beware of Setting Your Intention

4:20 p.m.
So. I got a flat tire today driving home from my hair appointment. I’m not five minutes away from my home, yet it will take at least an hour for the tow truck to come and change my tire.

As I sit and reflect on my current situation, several thoughts float around in my head. The first being: What the hell?!?!?! (I’m new to this yoga way of life so please forgive me). Of course, I do not have my coat (didn’t I just have this conversation with someone, didn’t someone warn me about keeping my coat in the car recently?) Those who know me best know that I abhor coats. All coats. Why I live in Chicago, I have no Earthly clue…maybe it’s to learn to live with and appreciate coats.

Getting back to my practice and the focus of this blog, I have to admit that I was calm throughout the entire episode: driving over whatever it was that caused the tire to flatten, hearing the tell-tell flapping noise the wheel made, checking the glove compartment for the roadside assistance number, and then subsequently calling them. I didn’t even lose my patience with “Bruce” as he told me it would be an hour before I would be rescued. Now, the old me would have suggested a few things to Bruce, and requested that he not waste another moment explaining the situation to me and just @!*?!+ call the towing people already... but that’s not who I am today.

I would like to dedicate this moment to the wonderful yoga practice today with Alison. Alison is in no way a frilly, fun typical workout instructor—she takes yoga seriously, and I guess that’s why I love her so. Today, at the beginning of class, she asked us to focus on our intention for the practice. At the end of the class she asked us to reflect on our intention and bring it with us throughout the day. My intention was to open myself up to life’s experiences whatever they may be. Note to self—think more positive. Who knew she would prove so prophetic, as I sit, cool now in the car, waiting to be rescued, completely open to whatever life has in store. Hey, at least I have my note book and pen (I NEVER leave home without it. My coat, who needs it? But to leave my notebook, blasphemy I say!) I’ve just passed thirty minutes, there’s hope yet—I still feel my fingers. Of course you know, all bets are off if the tow truck isn’t here by 5:20.

Ah yes, there are some of you who are saying, “just change the tire yourself.” I will reiterate: I have no coat and I know my limitations.

Tomorrow’s blog: Knowing Your Limitations


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